This Song Perfectly Describes My Experience with Mental Health Issues

As much as I love to empower and uplift people, it is extremely important to me to talk about issues in truthful ways, raise awareness, and destigmatize the conversation surrounding controversial topics. It’s a necessity to encourage empathy and understanding, and I hope that by listening to this song/reading the lyrics, people can sart to see how difficult and overwhelming living with mental health issues can be (I discuss my own interpretations of the following at the end of the article. Thanks for being open-minded.

“Lovely Sad” by The Maine

Ugly little feelings
Crawl inside my head
What’s the point in leaving
This California king-sized bed?
And the should-have’s
They start to eat my brain
The shadow of my youth has
Made the sun go black again
I look around and I don’t see the pretty things
The evil thoughts upstairs they don’t need company
This broken glass it reflects back
The person I’ve become

And now
Here I am
I feel numb
On the fence
On the run
Spill my guts
What an act
I am sad
But to me I’m lovely sad

Imaginary numbers
Control the ones we love
Fooled by affectation
And something up above
If you’re in love with diamonds
A simple death you’re dying
A wasted life to me
Here we are all liars
Just hoping to get higher
Than everyone we meet
Huxley said we live together but we’re always by ourselves
If you don’t like this type of weather you can move to someplace else
Significance is rarely found underneath your couch

So now
Here you are
Feeling numb
On the fence
On the run
Down and out
Such a drag
We’re all sad
But to me we’re lovely sad

I’m not at all claiming that everyone’s experience with mental health difficulties is the same as mine, and it’s important to not expect all individuals with mental illness to act the same. Everyone is affected differently, and each person’s experience is valid and should never feel invalidated. I learned about the importance of validation through Sashbear‘s creators in the context of helping those with Borderline Personality Disorder (BPD), but it’s also extremely important in day-to-day interactions with anyone and everyone.
What is BPD?
“Borderline personality disorder (BPD) is a serious mental illness that causes unstable moods, behavior, and relationships. It usually begins during adolescence or early adulthood.” [Source]
Back to the Song…
To me, this song is a perfect representation of a lot of what I feel when I’m at those low points of mental health. The entire first verse is accurate and easy to relate with. It’s difficult to understand for those who haven’t experienced it, but at times people who have mental health issues find it hard to complete what may seem like the simplest of tasks; for example, getting out of bed can seem impossible and having a conversation can feel extremely tiresome. These feelings are all exhausting, but it can be really hard to confront them and break the cycle of negativity, since the sad/low can begin to feel comfortable, normal, or easier to deal with than the effort it would take to get out of the funk (hence “Lovely Sad”). That’s what the song means to me, at least.
Even though this week’s Song Saturday wasn’t as uplifting as they usually are, I really hope I made some people think, and others feel heard.

Songs to Empower You!

Today I thought I’d compile a little list of songs to empower you in certain situations & hopefully give you the courage you need to get yourself out of them/stay strong. Sometimes it’s good to channel some anger and let it out through music, so maybe some of these songs can help you do that too. xo

1. “Boomerang” by Walk Off The Earth — Manipulative/Abusive/Unhappy Relationships or Friendships

“I’m not your boomerang”

2. “Never Let Me Down” by Kanye West (ft. Jay-Z and J-Ivy) — Racism and Discrimination

“I get down for my grandfather who took my mama
Made her sit in that seat where white folks ain’t want us to eat
At the tender age of 6 she was arrested for the sit-ins
And with that in my blood I was born to be different
Now niggas can’t make it to ballots to choose leadership”

3. “Just A Girl” by No Doubt — Misogyny and Gender Roles

“Don’t you think I know exactly where I stand?
This world is forcing me to hold your hand
‘Cause I’m just a girl, little ol’ me
Well don’t let me out of your sight
I’m just a girl, all pretty and petite,
So don’t let me have any rights”

4. “Girl In A Country Song” by Maddie and Tae — Sexism in the Media

“Being a girl in a country song – how in the world did it go so wrong?
Like all we’re good for is looking good for you and your friends on the weekend, nothing more”

5. “Since U Been Gone” by Kelly Clarkson — Getting over a Bad Relationship/Friendship

“Since you been gone, I can breathe for the first time”

6. “Gives You Hell” by The All-American Rejects — Proving People Wrong! 

(idk this song just makes me feel so pumped up)

7. “The Middle” by Jimmy Eats World Insecurity, Bad Friends, Peer Pressure, Bullying

“Everything, everything will be just fine
Everything, everything will be all right, ALL RIGHT!”

8. “Son of Man” by Phil Collins — Male Empowerment

“Lift your spirit, set it free
Someday you’ll walk tall with pride”

There are a ton more songs in a playlist on my YouTube channel and on a list on my Tumblr! Feel free to comment other empowering songs that you can think of! 🙂 Happy Song Saturday!

Keep Your Head Up

This song is really cheesy, but it always makes me smile. Today, try to remember that the stresses you’re facing are going to end and you can get through them. Take a step back and look at things positively before continuing with whatever’s difficult for you right now. I know it’s hard, but it makes a huge difference. You can do. “You’ll turn out fine”. Have a great weekend!

Thanks for being here!

This blog is dedicated to happiness — mine, yours, and maybe even your friends’ and family’s (if I’m so lucky that people share my posts and find them helpful)! While it’s important to be knowledgeable about current events and social justice issues, I think it’s also incredibly important to take time to be positive every day. I think there’s too much focus on the negative, and I want to try to change that in my own life.

I decided to make my quest public to keep myself motivated, and also to motivate others as well hopefully; we all need it every once in a while. Each day of the week will have a different theme to it, and they will all be wonderous (hence “wonderousweekdays”). I haven’t come up with all of the names yet, but so far there will be:

  • “Masculine” Monday – content focused on challenging gender roles and norms.
  • Tuesday to come. 
  • #WomanCrushWednesday – a play off the popular instagram/Twitter tag, Wednesday is a day to give a shoutout to wonderful women, empower females, and challenge gender roles & misogyny.
  • Thankful Thursday – a day dedicated to recognizing all the great things in our life.
  • Feel Good Friday – random acts of kindness? Good news? Cute animals? Mental health advice? If it will make you happy, it fits in here.
  • Song Saturday – sharing the healing power of positive music!
  • Self-love Sunday – let’s focus on self-care and acceptance to start the #wonderousweek off right.